Tell Me About: Mindset

Being in the wrong mindset can ruin a carefully planned scene, and it is as important, for the Dom, as the sub to be in the right frame of mind.  If either one of us isn’t feeling it then the chances are it either won’t work out, or it will take a lot of effort Read More …

Punishment and Rewards

Punishment or Discipline In the world of BDSM, the ‘D’ can mean Discipline or Dominance.  We don’t really explore the full scope of BDSM, because I am not a huge fan of pain.  I do not want bruises or to bleed as some people who are masochistic do; and I don’t believe that MrH would Read More …

Tell Me About: Control

Control is an Illusion Especially within a D/s relationship with a power exchange like ours, control is just an illusion.  We have agreed rules and boundaries; MrH works within those boundaries.  To the outside world, it looks like MrH has all the power because he makes the decisions.  And, that is where the illusion lies, Read More …

Might not will

There is a difference between the words ‘might’ and ‘will’ but my brain has trouble with this.  No, I’m serious and I bet I am not the only one… Let me give you an example.  On Thursday night MrH said his tummy hurt and I asked if he wanted something to ease it.  He said Read More …

Rescue Me

Probably not the best title for a post, I don’t actually need to be rescued, well not exactly. This week was originally meant to begin with 2 nights away at our favourite hotel. Those two nights would have been filled with sex and rope and impact play. We would have dined in the restaurant, and loved Read More …

What’s next?

So, S2 is moved in with S1, and now MrH and I are alone. Time to reorganize We have a week off work and we will be slowly sorting through the things left behind, packing what needs to be saved and disposing of the rest. If we get chance we will probably put a coat Read More …

Can I have a treat?

I asked a question. It took me the best part of an hour to actually ask it, but I did. Did you do anything different yesterday? Seems simple enough right? Well not for me. Sunday night MrH had caned me, then he played with me. He got the Doxy out and that’s always good, but Sunday, Read More …

Erotic Journal Challenge: Mental Health

I’ve written extensively about my own challenges with Mental Health and I apologise if I repeat myself here, but, this is such an important, misunderstood and awkward topic I feel justified in doing so, especially when it comes to discussing how mental health affects every aspect of your life, especially your sex life. Has mental Read More …

What was that?

We stayed at a hotel on Tuesday night, which I may have mentioned in my earlier posts, so we could go to the munch without having to drive home afterwards, and because it was MrH birthday on the Wednesday.. Hotel fuckery As a rule that means we get to have some seriously uninhibited play because Read More …

Tell Me About: The Power Exchange

The power exchange between MrH and myself is at the core of what we do.  When we started D/s and I asked MrH to take control I didn’t realise how much it would change our lives. I definitely didn’t realise how much better our lives would become. What was it like before? Before, I tried Read More …