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Tell Me About: Discipline

The Oxford English Dictionary defines discipline as “the practice of training people to obey rules and orders and punishing them if they do not; the controlled behavior or situation that results from this training”. A few weeks ago we discussed punishment, but how does discipline fit into a D/s dynamic? Setting the rules. When we began our D/s journey I didn’t have any specific rules to follow. In fact when the first rule was created in was following a plea from myself to help me to change a bad habit that I had formed. Mr H obliged and I have

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While I’ve got you there

I briefly mentioned in a recent post that I had ordered some stockings without permission.  MrH does not like to punish me and so I didn’t know if he would.  I found out last night. While I’ve got you there. Every evening MrH changes my collar.  I stand in front of him and he removes by chain and replaces it with my night collar.  After this is done he applies an ibuprofen gel to my back; I lean over the bed while he does so my body weight is on my arms.  Yesterday, after he had applied the gel he

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Punishment and Rewards

Punishment or Discipline? In the world of BDSM, the ‘D’ can mean Discipline or Dominance.  We don’t really explore the full scope of BDSM, because I am not a huge fan of pain.  I do not want bruises or to bleed as some people who are masochistic do; and I don’t believe that MrH would want me bruised and bloodied.  We exist more in the BD (Bondage & Discipline) and the DS (Dominance & Submission) range. While we explore bondage, (I love being tied up), we do not do much by way of discipline. Consequences. I have a set of

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Tell Me About: Consent

Consent in D/s relationships is essential.  When a couple first begins this type of relationship it begins with communication.  Communicating their interests and desires, their likes and dislikes, what they are willing to try and what they are not; consent is formed through these discussions. When Mr H and I began this journey I asked him to consider ‘doing that’ to me.  The ‘that’ I referred to was a scene from Fifty Shades of Gray, in all honesty I forget which one, but the point is in that moment I gave Mr H consent to try it. Implied Consent? As

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MrH’s birthday is this month and we are booked into a hotel the night before. We will attend the munch at The Townhouse and then head back to the hotel. MrH will wake up on his birthday in the hotel, and this also marks the start of a week long holiday. Yes I’ve gone and done it… 5 whole days off work… (well 7 if you count the weekend). You would be forgiven in thinking that it’s strange I would be going to a swingers club given my various posts about playing with others being a massive NO for me

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Oh fudge!

Or something similar….. I ordered some shoes.  I didn’t ask permission.  I have no idea why I didn’t ask, I usually do. The only exception is if I’ve ordered things for work and then we haven’t paid for them or we’re getting the money back. I’ve been looking for some shoes for work for about 6 weeks now. I needed some flat but not really flat shoes. That might not seem to make sense but honestly it does! Some flat shoes have really thin soles and they offer no support or cushioning under your feet. Trying to find some flat shoes that

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Reflecting on the A to Z Challenge

I did it. The whole alphabet.  I couldn’t have done it if I hadn’t spent the weekends preparing a number of posts in advance. It was an interesting challenge but not one I will do again. I prefer writing about things as they happen to me, as I think about them, or when something inspires me. It is my “journal” after all 😊. Here are links to each post. Blogging from A2Z 2019: Anal Blogging from A2Z 2019: Bondage Blogging from A2Z 2019: Curiosity Blogging from A2Z 2019: Discipline Blogging from A2Z 2019: Effort Blogging from A2Z 2019: Flogging Blogging from

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Tell Me About: Rules

I have rules.  I’m not necessarily great at following them.  They started little. I was to be respectful to him. MrH doesn’t like me swearing and so he expected me not to swear and I was not to role my eyes at him. The first time I asked him to help me by setting a rule was felt strange. It took me ages to work up to it. I had a bad habit and I asked MrH to help me manage it. I was waking up at night and getting a snack and it needed to stop. You can read the full

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Back on it.

The second week of January began with a fizzle….. neither MrH or I wanted to get out of bed on Monday morning when the alarm went off. What a life we could have if only we could win the lottery! Don’t get me wrong I enjoy my job but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t be happier spending my day sewing, riding or playing with cats and dogs, and I know MrH would be infinitely happier with a pack of dogs to walk! But anyway we got up (as you do) eventually and MrH picked my bra colour so I could

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8th December 2018

Today’s the day our rules are reset. Today’s the day our dynamic gets back on track properly. Let me explain….. MrH emailed me yesterday (text below) with his thoughts on how we can achieve this, which we then discussed last night. As you know my love I have been thinking about where we are at and where we are going and would like your thoughts on the below. Rules 1. Matching underwear to be worn Mon to Thurs 2. Friday is no pantie day 3. Food eaten must be on plan unless an exception is requested. 4. You are to

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