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Why’d y’ have to go and make things so complicated?

I think all relationships have complications. Some may be insurmountable and the relationships end, others less so and the relationship adapts or compromises are made. [embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5NPBIwQyPWE[/embedyt] I am going to speak in general terms here for a moment and so please bear with me, I know not every young

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Hide behind your mask

I have worked hard to become more authentic. I used to present a face to the world that I thought they wanted to see. My mum raised me to be a confident outgoing little girl. She didn’t care if that’s what I was comfortable with, it was what she wanted.

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Erotic Journal Challenge: Mental Health

I’ve written extensively about my own challenges with Mental Health and I apologise if I repeat myself here, but, this is such an important, misunderstood and awkward topic I feel justified in doing so, especially when it comes to discussing how mental health affects every aspect of your life, especially

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Striving to be perfect

Growing up I worked hard to be the perfect daughter. I was not to speak until I was spoken to and I was not allowed to have any opinions. The only time we (my brother and I) were praised was for getting good test results. Only my results were never

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Move along

Steeled Snake wrote a post recently following a comment he received, where someone had complained that the content of his blog suggested that D/s relationships were “better” than vanilla ones. It got me thinking about the world in general and keyboard warriors in particular. I’m offended You can’t seem to

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Happy birthday MrH

It’s MrH birthday today and if you read my post Conundrum you’ll know I wanted to buy him a surprise gift and didn’t know if I would manage to keep the secret….. Well I did. Although I was like a kid on Christmas Eve yesterday trying to persuade him to

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Fuck Budgets

It’s not what you think… I saw this TEDx talk called ”the magic of not giving a fuck” and as well as making me laugh it made me think…. Sarah Knights talk is funny and more importantly it makes sense… So what’s the idea? It’s quite simple really, if you think about it,

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F4TF: I’m not crazy

There’s a song I found years ago, and loved instantly, on a list songs that Stephanie Meyers says she listened to while writing the Twilight Saga.  The song, by Matchbox 20 Unwell resonated with me then and still does to this day although MrH thinks it’s a strange song. Here’s a link

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Kitty Kisses

One of my tattoos is a black cat. When I got it it represented my new found sexuality and femininity, as I had not long since met MrH, and I felt sexy and very attractive. I sometimes joke that when it was first done it was a kitten…. and when

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MrH’s birthday is this month and we are booked into a hotel the night before. We will attend the munch at The Townhouse and then head back to the hotel. MrH will wake up on his birthday in the hotel, and this also marks the start of a week long

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