In my earliest recollections when I was asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” I would answer “a mum.” I would play games in the playground pretending to push a pram (it was invisible) with my friends who were all pushing their prams too.
When I got a little older, my mum gave me some Mills & Boon books to read. She liked medical romances and I soon decided I wanted to be “a nurse.” There was a slight flaw in this plan. I tend to faint at the sight of blood.
In the background I still just wanted to be a mother. So when I fell pregnant I was happy. I devoted myself to being a mum. I wanted him to feel safe and secure. To know he could do anything he wanted and I would be there cheering him on, ready to pick him up if he fell. I think I did ok on that one.
As for a “job” at 21 I still had no idea so I went to college and studied Business and Finance. I met MrH there and fell in love. I can honestly say that in my life I have been in love once. I thought I was in love with my first husband – but looking back, it wasn’t love.
I fell into the career I have now by accident and it’s proven to be very fulfilling so far, but as I have grown up I have realised something very important..
When we ask our children what do you want to be when you grow up and we expect them to give us a job, we are asking the wrong question.
I never knew what career I wanted and more importantly that doesn’t matter. A job is what pays your bills. A job contributes to your overall life experience but it doesn’t make it.
What we really should be encouraging our children to think about is what will make them happy and content. What things will make your life extraordinary? Where will you find joy and what do you need to do to make that possible?
A job will be necessary, things aren’t free after all, but the things that will make your life worthwhile are the things you have outside of your work life.
I like to ride a motorcycle.
I like to explore old houses.
I love to be with MrH.
I am content walking on a beach holding Sirs hand and paddling in the water.
I have everything I need, right here, right now. Sure, more money would mean I can do more of the things I love, with the man I love, but I am happy with my life as it is. All I want from my life is to grow old with MrH.
So I guess that to answer the prompt, when I grow up I want to be….. healthy, happy and in love.