You won’t break me

I am precious, cherished, loved.  Mr H controls his strength and holds back afraid to break me, most of the time.  Last year we experimented with him spanking me as hard as he could and he left gorgeous hand prints on my bottom, one side also had a welt for a few days.  And, he Read More …

Tell Me About: Mindset

Being in the wrong mindset can ruin a carefully planned scene, and it is as important, for the Dom, as the sub to be in the right frame of mind.  If either one of us isn’t feeling it then the chances are it either won’t work out, or it will take a lot of effort Read More …

Tell Me About: Control

Control is an Illusion Especially within a D/s relationship with a power exchange like ours, control is just an illusion.  We have agreed rules and boundaries; MrH works within those boundaries.  To the outside world, it looks like MrH has all the power because he makes the decisions.  And, that is where the illusion lies, Read More …

Tell Me About: Fantasies

When we entered into a D/s relationship, MrH and I talked about our fantasies and it opened up a whole world of sexual play that had been previously unexplored.   In our early years I purchased a number of traditional dress up items.  A French Maids outfit and a PVC dress were worn with stockings to Read More …

Tell Me About: Training

Training is something that is definitely prevalent in D/s fiction and I admit to enjoying the Brie series of books by Red Phoenix which chronicles Brie’s journey through a submissive training school.  I have no problem with training in fiction, however, I do have some issues with the concept of training in real life. Why Read More …

Tell Me About: Consent

Consent in D/s relationships is essential.  When a couple first begins this type of relationship it begins with communication.  Communicating their interests and desires, their likes and dislikes, what they are willing to try and what they are not; consent is formed through these discussions. When MrH and I began this journey I asked him Read More …

Tell Me About: Public Play

Public play isn’t something we have done, but we’ve spoken about it. We went to an event (of sorts) and watched our good friend administer a flogging to her slave. It was interesting to watch. Sexy Public Play Initially when we first went to The Townhouse I was intrigued by all the equipment. There’s a Read More …

Tell Me About: Collars and Cuffs

This is something that I have written about before, my collars I mean, and I say collars because I have a few. My first post dedicated to them, collars and chains discussed the basics and why we decided to use them. Since then I’ve posted about new collars made and these have been relatively brief, Read More …

Tell Me About: The Power Exchange

The power exchange between MrH and myself is at the core of what we do.  When we started D/s and I asked MrH to take control I didn’t realise how much it would change our lives. I definitely didn’t realise how much better our lives would become. What was it like before? Before, I tried Read More …