This is the word I use to caution MrH. It tells him that I am nearing the limit of my tolerance, that I need him to take things slower, pause, or check in with me. This word doesn’t stop play. This word prompts him to assess my body language, to verbally check in.
I use this word when we play with the cane if the pain is getting too much, and he will rub my bottom for a few moments before checking I am happy to continue. I would use this word if I needed to change position.
I remember reading a blog post once where the writer said they used red when they probably should have used yellow, that in hindsight they hadn’t needed to stop play, they had just needed a moment, and that has stuck with me. So I always think, red is for those moments where I need to stop absolutely and immediately. I called red I think once the first time we did forced orgasms. I couldn’t catch my breath and I think I did faint after I called red. Probably Oscar worthy as I gasped out “red” before blacking out, but in fairness to MrH and before anyone says he should have noticed he asked me many times (and does during a forced orgasm session) did I want to stop. He also now reminds me to breathe!
The communication of where those limits are during impact play, by using yellow allows MrH to pause, let me relax and settle, before continuing. That pause can be enough for the limit to shift, the endorphins to kick in, and when play resumes we can go a little further.
Yellow roses are traditionally given to symbolise friendship and joy. I chose yellow and white roses to have in my bouquet when we married, because friendship is the foundation that we chose to build our lives together on.
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