I am so grateful to everyone who follows me. There are 333 wordpress followers, 18 email only followers, and 549 on Twitter. Assuming that the same people follow me on both Twitter and WordPress I’m still blown away that over 500 people think what I write is worth reading!
TJ raised a point recently about validation, and how she gets really fed up when very few people comment on her posts. Now she also acknowledges that validation isn’t actually something she aimed for when starting her blog but in my reply I commented that really I think we all want that acceptance and recognition. It’s part of being human in many ways.
Having said that, I am quite lazy. If I can comment via the app I will do. If I have to log in every time I visit your site, chances are I won’t. I just get fed up having to log in to wordpress over and over again. I also get fed up when I have to put my name and email address in every time. Some sites have the option to ‘remember me’ and I always say ‘yes.’
But, you know the one thing I really find hard? Commenting on posts that I am not sure I understand or agree with. Things I consider to be Taboo.
Let me give you an example. When I see images of a person (regardless of gender) covered in deep bruises over their kidneys, liver, or breasts. When the post talks about them being punched. I can’t get my head around that level of hurt. Black bruises over the kidneys or liver suggest a real possibility of internal bleeding, and for the life of me I find that to be irresponsible behaviour. I am not saying that the person who delivered the blows is entirely at fault. I presume that there has been consent to the act. But surely there should be general anatomical knowledge and understanding of what damage can be done.
The majority of S&M practitioners do not hit their partners over the soft tissue of the mid body because it can potentially cause such horrific damage. The majority of them have the wellbeing of their partner as their primary concern and it always makes me think that the people who have these bruises have not made good decisions. Perhaps they think they don’t need to research safety. Perhaps they watched 50 shades and decided to reenact Rocky?
Now I mentioned the breast tissue too. Did you know that if you bruise your body repeatedly, in the same area, the blood can (and usually will) form what feels like a small lump? It’s basically blood that has clotted and instead of being reabsorbed into the body it forms scar tissue. That happens anywhere on your body. I have them on my arms where I bump into door handles and legs where I bump into the corner of tables Here’s my concern. If you feel a lump in your breast you should get it checked, right? What if, due to repeated bruising, and the formation of small lumps, you miss a cancerous lump, dismissing it as “one of my bruises”?
MrH and I do some impact play, and I’ve been red. I have never bruised. Yet.
I’ve never been punched by a man. But if MrH was to punch me…. that would hurt. I’m pretty sure I’d be out cold, bleeding and bruised. I’m also pretty sure if I asked him to he would say no. Think about punching a pillow, don’t you kinda get mad??
So, when I see these images, I can’t say anything positive because I want to scream OMG why are your kidneys bleeding???? I will hit like to acknowledge having read it, but I can’t think of anything to comment.
I will openly admit that I do not know the intimate details of peoples relationships, and each to their own.
I would never presume to tell someone they are wrong. These thoughts and feelings are my own, and probably stem from growing up in an abusive environment. I completely accept that this may well be your kink, but it’s definitely Taboo for me.
TJ’s post just got me thinking about how I don’t always comment, and why. Quite nicely it also fit with the F4fF prompt. To see more posts about taboo topics click the image below.
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