Tell Me About: Bondage

Bondage plays a big part of our relationship. When I first asked MrH to consider adding BDSM elements to our relationship bondage was my starting point. I asked him to try restraining and dominating me.

MrH didn’t think I’d like being restrained and told what to do but he was willing to give it a go!

Verbal Bondage

Our first dabble was verbal control. He positioned me on the bed and told me “don’t move”.

These simple words sent a tingle through me that I can’t adequately explain. I was instantly aroused and excited too. Afterwards he said he did it to see how I would respond to him telling me what to do. We were both pleased with the result I think and over the next few weeks MrH used this type of bondage to great effect.

It’s not often MrH uses verbal bondage now but I love it when he does. It takes me into a submissive mind set quickly. As I’m immediately reminded that he’s in control of me, my body, my responses and that I am his to command.

Ankle and Wrist Cuffs

We bought an under bed restraint system which we take to hotels.

We don’t use this at home for a few reasons. Firstly our boys might see it and ask questions, secondly we have cleaners who change our bedding once a week. They would definitely see it. But I do love the feeling of exposure and vulnerability as he walks around me as I lay on the bed. I love how he then takes each cuff and secures each limb in turn. I’m hopeful that one day we will be able to have restraints on our bed for whenever MrH wishes to use them on me.

Rope and Knots

MrH has always played with rope so it was something I thought early on would be worth exploring. He learned to tie knots in the sea cadets and he would often sit on a weekend and tie complex knots in string. He watched videos about rope bondage, but it took a few months before we bought some rope. A very dear friend lent us some shabari bondage books and when he eventually got the rope round me we discovered that it’s fun for all.

He started initially following tutorials on YouTube. Wrapping my arms behind my back, my legs to the bed and my body. He works up quite a sweat while he’s doing it and it’s relaxing for me too. I’ve almost fallen asleep after a day of play.

I don’t have many images of his work as he’s quite critical of it, saying he can “do better” and so he doesn’t take many pictures of his work. The images I do have I love. We have now invested in jute rope. The cotton rope shown in the above images are soft and a bit stretchy so they don’t hold securely, whereas jute and hemp rope doesn’t stretch. It also leaves lovely rope marks.

 

I know that more rope work is in our future, as a 200m reel of jute is on its way to us as I type. MrH wants to make lengths of different sizes and this was the most cost effective way of managing it.

Eventually we hope to do suspension work too.

Having me unable to squirm about is definitely something MrH enjoys. He likes to position me and play without me being able to move and I love knowing that I am at his mercy.

 

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13 Replies to “Tell Me About: Bondage”

  1. I can’t wait to see more pictures of your bondage experiences.

    Good luck with the jute. Part of the fun (for me) of reel bought jute is the time I take treating it, getting to know the ropes and making it safe and the right length. Oh, and dying, and drying….. Oh god. Rope slut! (think I’ve found my first “tell me about…” post) x

  2. This is a really detailed and infomative post and I love all the pictures you have used to illustrate it. Thank you – I have really enjoyed reading about how much of a part bondage plays in your dynamic :0

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